I’m so sorry you have to go through that. Pregnancy should be such a happy time. I know what you mean though. I look young as well and I had the same fear when I was pregnant. My suggestion would be that next time you see someone do that you should walk up to them and ask them if they have something they would like to say. It’ll catch them off guard as they are thinking they are passing judgement and showing their disprovement without repercussion. Then explain to her that although you look young you are not and maybe she should be more careful about judging others in the future. It’ll definitely make people think twice next time, and make you feel better.

ehh as long as you love your partner and you wanted the child your carrying then forget about everyone else they don’t pay your bills!!

I know what you mean. Being pregnant at 24 is perfectly acceptable and normal and you shouldn’t have to be in a situation where you are being judged for something that you are not doing wrong.

I would suggest that you talk about this with somebody close to you, maybe your husband or family members. Try to joke and laugh about it and maybe the next time you are faced with a similar situation it will seem a lot more trivial.

LOL I am in the same boat, not pregnant yet, but I’m 20 and look 16-17.. But I say, let people judge,you know who you are and you’re old enough to have a child, if they say anything, tell the biotches off!! They have no right saying things like that.

I’d have flipped that woman the bird,and said what you looking at old woman!!!!

FEEL comfortable in your skin,and enjoy this pregnancy!

Don’t let it bother you. Enjoy your belly / pregnancy without fear of what others think.

pull out your wallet and show them your license. that should make them feel really bad. then just say I am not a child I am a married adult and you can not judge me. good luck and congrats!!!!!

I think some paranoia, no matter who you are, is common.

Other things people worry about:

– I’m in old jeans and a t-shirt. People are going to think I’m too poor to breed.
– I’m past thirty. People are going to think I’m too old to breed.
– Everybody knows I had ***!! (Surprisingly common.)
– I have pimples and circles under my eyes. People will think badly of me for not taking care of myself (despite how ridiculous that is)
– I’m eating what looks like a deli sandwich. Somebody’s going to come up to me and tell me it’s unsafe, even though I made it at home and…

etc, etc.

Yeah, you _shouldn’t_ care what people think, but if you do — which is understandable — that doesn’t help much.

Throw on a wedding band if you don’t already wear one.

Dress a bit old. No silly shoes. Good jewellery rather than trendy — get some pearls (fake okay). Carry a newspaper…!

Look happy. If people see somebody doing something they think is questionable (being 16 and pregnant, say), they do tend to pause a bit if the person is very clearly okay with themselves. It’s the insecure that get preyed upon by that sort of person. What you do in that situation is not hang your head (like a teen-ager, on being made to feel miserable by some **** in a mall, might), but perk up and give them a beaming smile, even a Hello! Lovely day we’re having!

People will always judge no matter what…that is just a part of human nature. You really need to just ignore their ignorance and keep your head held high and enjoy your pregnancy. If you let these people get to you it will add unnecessary stress and you don’t need that!!

just ignore them! I copped that when i was pregnant with my son (although was 16), and I am now 21 and pregnant again, and still coping the same thing. Its your life.. don’t worry about what people think!!
I just hope you don’t get it at the hospital too like i did with my son.

I was told i was a little sl*t, i shouldn’t be having a baby because i am only going to ***** it up like I have screwed up my life!

She also went and got adoption papers and tried to make me sign it..
I still to this day, can’t believe the way i was treated.

Needless to say, we’re not going back there!!

I agree with most of the posters before, people can sometimes be very judgemental or say stupid things when they shouldn’t. I am fair skinned and have a dark complected mixed daughter. I actually was at the airport picking up my mother in law when my daughter was a baby, and had some stupid woman come up to me and ask where my daughter got her dark hair and dark complexion. My mother in law and I just looked at each other and shook our heads. Some people just aren’t smart enough to see beyond their own noses. With my second pregnancy I was 9 months pregnant and went to a concert, going to the bathroom I actually had a woman look at me and say nice belly I looked right back her and said yup, I put it on just for the concert and rolled my eyes. It’s one of those Here’s your sign moments. Just know you aren’t doing anything wrong, and unfortunately you cannot change peoples ignorance. Pretty soon you will have a little one, and everyone and there dog will be telling you how to raise them. Good luck.